Living in a society, a person tries to take into account and respect the interests of others. This is necessary in order to minimize conflict situations.
Accordingly, he expects the same from other people, he wants to be appreciated and respected. But this is not always possible to achieve, more often it is due to the fact that a person does not know how to present himself in society, treats himself disrespectfully, provoking others to do the same.
In our article, you can familiarize yourself with 10 signs that indicate that you do not respect yourself.
10. You want to please everyone
Many people are so kind that they are ready to make the lives of others better, they strive to please them in everything.
Psychologists consider this maneuver to be erroneous, because in the pursuit of the life of others being cloudless, a person forgets about himself.
More often people seek to please someone because they expect recognition and love, this indicates that they themselves are not able to love themselves.
Self-sacrifice in some cases is necessary, but if you do it regularly, then others will no longer appreciate it.
9. You give up your beliefs to avoid conflict
Striving to prove one's case is always and everywhere not one of the best tactics of behavior in society.
But also psychologists do not recommend giving up their point of view on things for any reason, trying to avoid a conflict situation.
A self-respecting person will respect his own beliefs and will not refuse them for any reason.
8. You are indifferent to your health
In the pursuit of money, people often begin to literally live at work, depriving themselves of good rest, sleep and food.
What can we say about visiting doctors. Health is very important for a person, they can not be neglected. You should go to the hospital not only when something is already sick, but also when there is a need for a routine examination.
A self-respecting person always takes care of his condition, and if he needs rest, then he exercises it. Those who do not care about their health, as a rule, do not like and do not respect themselves.
7. You gossip too much
Psychologists consider the love of gossip to be one of the signs of disrespect for their personality.
A person who seeks to keep abreast of the personal life of his colleagues and friends, is interested in all its details and immediately discusses them with others, cannot respect himself. This suggests that he lives a strange life, trying to find out who is sleeping with whom, who eats and who earns how much. His own life does not bother him.
6. You speak badly of yourself
Psychologists do not recommend anyone to speak negatively of themselves, for example, criticize their appearance, merits, tell others that you are stupid, and all your successes are just a fortunate combination of circumstances.
Gradually, a person who responds so much about herself begins to sincerely believe in it, which prevents her from achieving her goals.
Then, others will think that a person is a loser and it is worth less to communicate with him, so as not to slide to his level.
5. You continue to be friends with those who treat you badly
Friendship is an important component of every person’s life, but psychologists advise carefully choosing your environment.
If you are friends with people who do not put a penny on you, spit on your opinion, speak negatively of you and even allow rudeness towards you, then you definitely do not respect yourself.
Any self-respecting person is better left alone than he will keep liars, boors, cheeky, manipulators or personalities who want to assert themselves at your expense.
4. You constantly do what you do not like
If you work at work that is not to your liking, live in a hated city, eat food that is disgusting, and the words “must” and “must” have become firmly established in your vocabulary, then most likely you do not respect yourself.
The habit of constantly doing what we don’t like often comes into adulthood from childhood, when we eat stewed cabbage in kindergarten through power, because the teacher said when we play uninteresting games to please a friend or watch films that don’t bring pleasure for the same reason.
Parents from a young age should allow the baby to do those things that bring him joy and satisfaction.
3. You let others interfere in your life
Near a person there are often individuals who want to impose their opinions, find out the details of their personal lives and try to tell how to live and what to do.
You should not let them do this unless you ask for advice yourself.
Psychologists believe that if a person allows others to delve into his life and give uninvited advice, then he is an immature person, unable to respect himself.
Friends, acquaintances and colleagues who crave details from their personal lives and who want to help you figure it out should be kept at a distance.
2. You say yes, even if you want to say no
The problem of disrespect for oneself as a person for many lies in the fact that they do not know how to say no, and answer yes, even in situations where they do not want it at all.
If you have your own affairs, but you put them off and seek, without regard to help, to the one who called you, then you are wasting your resources, but you could use them to your advantage.
Do not be afraid to offend others with refusal, those who are offended by a completely justified refusal of a request, as a rule, are just looking for people who can conveniently shove off their duties.
A self-respecting person will not be convenient for anyone.
1. You allow others to disrespect yourself
If they treat you disrespectfully, they can humiliate you, and you listen to it silently, not trying to answer the offender because you think you deserve to be insulted or fearing aggression from him, then, according to psychologists, you don’t respect too much yourself.
A person who has love and respect for himself will never let others hurt his feelings, he will always stop the attacks of others.