In the West, visiting a psychologist is commonplace. People are not shy about discussing their personal lives with them, and are not afraid that after visiting a specialist, people around them will consider them psychopaths.
In Russia, the situation is completely different. Most people consider girlfriend, friend, or relative to be the best psychologist, but complaints about life only aggravate the situation, and listeners often give bad advice.
It should be noted that recently the trend has changed a bit. A small part of people who cannot cope with their personal problems turn to psychologists.
The rest still can not understand that this specialist will help them understand themselves. Again, do not sign up for a consultation because of every little thing.
Below are ways to understand what you need to visit a psychologist. You will find out in which situations you should definitely use the help of a specialist, and not rely on a friendly shoulder.
10. It's over
Parting with a loved one is very difficult to survive. During this period, most people do a lot of stupid things, especially if divorce is a partner's initiative.
Someone begins to drink, someone drowns the pain with random connections, someone is going to say goodbye to this world.
If you feel very bad, painful and hard, do not wait for it to pass by itself, it may take more than one year.
Look for a good psychologist, he will help you survive this difficult period. Of course, you should not hope that a specialist will give you a pill, and you will forget about your ex. You will need to work.
The psychologist will help you find out the reasons for the separation, you look at the relationship with the former partner from a different perspective.
9. You cannot find your place in life
Many people who have crossed a 30-year or even 40-year line realize that they do not live the way they dreamed. They don’t like work, they don’t know what they would like to do.
In Russia, it is customary to live according to the standard scenario: school, institute, work, career growth. But time does not stand still, new specialties appear that are not taught at institutes.
If you understand that you are not in the right place, visit a psychologist. A specialist will help you deal with your desires and capabilities. Do not ignore these signals, it will only get worse.
If all this seems insignificant to you, think about spending your whole life on the dreams and desires of others.
Understand yourself, then you can find a work of your life that will bring you great pleasure.
8. Everything infuriates you
If people around you annoy you, you often cry and be sad for no reason - this is an alarming sign.
You do not understand what is happening to you. You are no longer satisfied with external well-being, and you begin to think that “something is wrong” with you.
Calm down and don't panic. A visit to a psychologist in this situation is not a luxury, but a necessity.
Of course, first of all it is better to visit the therapist. Often this mood is visited by people who have health problems.
If everything is in order with your health, contact a psychologist. Perhaps you have depression, or relationships with others are not at all as ideal as you used to think.
7. Relationship problems with children or parents
It doesn’t matter “on which side of the barricades” you are on, the lack of mutual understanding between parents and children has a very bad effect on all areas.
A person feels insecure, he is deprived of the support of his closest ones. If you hush up these problems and continue to pretend that everything is fine, the problems begin more seriously.
Neglected grievances and unfinished conflicts will haunt you for the rest of your life.
To establish relationships with the closest people, you can step over yourself and still decide to consult a psychologist.
6. It seems to you that you are walking in a circle
Whatever you do, it seems to you that you are walking in a circle. Get a new job, after a couple of months, problems begin with colleagues or a boss. You start dating a man, and six months later he leaves you, just like the previous ones.
So, most likely, the problem is not with others, but with you. Even if you realize that a repeating scenario has firmly established in your life, you cannot find the reasons that provoke these situations. To do this, you have to "dig" in your past.
The human psyche can "hide" traumatic episodes and experiences. They are simply squeezed out of your mind. A psychologist will help you find them, and you can forever break out of this circle.
5. Are you addicted to alcohol or drugs?
It seems that in such a situation it is better to contact a narcologist, but he will not help solve the problem. Often people use alcohol or illegal substances if they cannot solve some internal problems. They only make things worse, but they don’t care. They want to hide from all their problems, to be forgotten.
The most common reasons people start to get addicted to alcohol or drugs are: difficult childhood, lack of support for loved ones, loneliness or mental pain, unrequited love.
If you find yourself in such a situation, do not waste time, visit a psychologist.
4. You work too much
Recently, there are more and more people who are literally obsessed with careers. Do not forget that everything is good in moderation.
Workaholic - sounds like praise, but such a person does not know how to rest and relax. He forgets about relatives and friends, his social circle is limited to colleagues, he enjoys being at work, and the weekend makes him panic.
If you have a feeling that apart from work, you are not interested in anything else, consult a psychologist.
Do not think that this is the norm. Work does not replace your personal life and communication with people.
3. You often take risks
We are talking about risky behavior when a person consciously tries to harm his health. Extreme sports, unprotected sex, risky driving. It is as if a man is trying to find his limit, he is playing with fire.
It should be understood that self-destructive behavior does not occur just like that. Most likely, there are problems in other areas of life.
Such people cannot establish relationships with others, they are not able to cope with their feelings and enjoy life. It is hardly possible to do without the help of a psychologist.
2. You cannot control your appetite
Eating disorders are also not uncommon. But only few in such a situation will turn to a psychologist.
If you cannot establish a relationship with food, you have one option - specialist advice.
Bulimia and anorexia are the most common phenomena, but there are many other disorders that are difficult to cope without psychological support.
Gluttony, strict diets, exhausting workouts, fasting, a constant sense of guilt - a specialist will help you with all these phenomena.
1. Forbidden topic
If you have a forbidden topic that you have never spoken to anyone about, do not think that everything is already in the past. Difficult circumstances arising in childhood or adolescence have a great impact on the rest of your life.
“Hard” secrets: harassment, physical violence, bullying of peers ... The list can be continued for a long time, but everything is individual and each has its own situation.
If you have the same terrible secret, consult a psychologist. Perhaps it seems to you that you should not stir up the past, but it is here that the reasons for your failures in your personal life or any other areas lie.
Yes, this is unpleasant, but then you can get rid of this heavy load and begin a new life.