When it comes to relationships with other people, we cannot always be sure what they will bring to us - a successful or sad experience, joy or disappointment.
Many people are reluctant to make new friends, continuing to communicate with childhood friends - this is more reliable. Indeed, the friendship we make with someone in childhood is the purest and real, because children do not know how to manipulate, use, they communicate, because they are together fun and good.
But what should be done to those people for whom fate did not present friends in childhood, or to those whose life paths have diverged, and a person really wants to find a friend? First of all - to be careful, and if you notice these signs, most likely, they will use you, and nothing good will come of communication.
10. Cannot help
If a person willingly accepts your help, he may agree that you pay for his dinner in a restaurant, but refuses to help you when you ask - pay attention to this.
This does not necessarily mean that a bad person is in front of you and communication with him needs to be stopped. Just try not to give him what he usually gets from you - for example, your help. So it will become clear whether this person needs you or only your help when he needs it.
9. Not able to support
Any relationship, whether friendly or romantic, always requires return. If you have an unpleasant event in your life, but you already know in advance that you cannot share your pain with a “friend”, ask yourself: “Is he a friend to me?”
A friend is one with whom you can share your joy and your sadness. But if a person willingly accepts your support, calls you when he is ill - this indicates that he is ready to take, but not to give.
8. Lack of attention
If you listen to a person, remember his significant dates, about what he was wearing yesterday, and what mood he was in, and he does not remember anything about your affairs - this sign indicates that the person is using you.
He talks a lot about himself, his feelings, and you listen to him, answer, remember everything - he is only happy about it. If this happens, then it will continue. If you need this person - he should find out about his mistake.
7. He is not around when you feel bad
Everything is clear in this paragraph - when you feel good, you have a lot of strength and energy to entertain your “friend” and have fun together - it’s right there, and when you are at home with a temperature and ask him to come in, he skips your request past the ears.
Your friend is not indifferent to your condition, he will call and ask: "Will you bring me some medicine?" “Do you want me to come and help you with the housework?”
6. He always needs something from you
A pseudo-friend is one who takes but does not give. You may have interesting contacts, trips or money. The person pretending to be your friend is easy to figure out. He will try to join your party to meet your interesting acquaintances, he will ask for money in debt, he will not refuse your offer: "You have little money, let me pay for the tickets."
When you don’t have money, bright people are nearby, and you ask: “Will you come to me? I’m sad, I would like to talk to someone, ”the person will ignore this - he doesn’t need you, but what he gets from you.
5. Refuses to meet when you need
A friend is a person whom we are always happy, but if you are often refused your offer to meet, it means that you are not causing positive emotions in a person.
But when a person is left alone - for example, he wants to go somewhere, but everyone is busy, he has no one to go with, and one doesn’t really want to, then you will be the person whom he will call and say: "Come with me." Do not flatter yourself - you are just a backup option for your “friend”.
4. He doesn’t care what you want.
You met with a “friend” and offered him lunch at one of his favorite restaurants, but he refused? There is nothing to be surprised at - a person does not care what you want.
But, most likely, he will try to convince you to do what he wants to. “Let's better sit in a Chinese restaurant?” You are welcome! There’s a great menu, and besides, you’ll get home from that area faster. ” In fact, it does not matter to him how you get, the main thing for him is to fulfill his desire.
3. Manipulates you
You can feel after a while how you came under the influence, and it is difficult for you to get out of it, because you value a person. Your "friend" will set you up against your friends, speak badly of them, if only you communicate only with him.
A person in the guise of a sincere and true friend will try to manipulate you in order to achieve some of your goals at the expense of you. Also, a fake friend can never rejoice at your success, because he either does not care, or he is jealous. And, as a rule, a person will push you to the wrong decisions and actions, so that you get bogged down with him.
2. Does not keep the word
You agreed to meet in one of the parks and take a walk at 6 pm, but the “friend” did not come and did not even apologize after that?
This will be repeated again and again, because a person has things more important in life than you, and it doesn’t matter that this “more important” is a guy whom your “girlfriend” met only a couple of hours ago ... She will be so passionate which will exchange a meeting with you for an unknown person. Forget about his promise to meet with ease, leaving you bored.
1. Pushes for wrong decisions
A true friend will not seek benefits for you in a relationship with you. For example, if your “friend” knows that your weakness is alcohol and meeting new men, then she will try to protect you from this - she will call your parents to pick you up, call a taxi and take you home, realizing that all this is in aggregates can end badly.
A pseudo-friend, on the contrary, will pour alcohol into your glass, because your fate and the fact that you are destroying yourself are indifferent to it - it only makes you happy.