If the child may not go to kindergarten, school will not work. Often it depends on the parents whether the first grader will love his school or not, whether he will fit into the team, whether he will hurry to his class.
A friendly atmosphere, an understanding teacher is all important. But, even if you are in the perfect class, the child may never make friends with classmates and invent new reasons to stay at home.
10. Parents try using their child to make their dreams come true
The mother of the child all her life wanted to be an excellent student, but she was not able to realize her dreams. And she decided that her daughter or son must study at five.
Dad always dreamed of being a soccer player, but it did not work out. Therefore, from childhood, he makes his son run with the ball.
Instead of listening to the wishes of the child, parents try to make their dreams come true. It is important to share your dreams and the dreams of children. This is their life, their choice, which they should make consciously, and not under the pressure of their parents.
9. The child is afraid to go to school, because there is no loved one
Most often, such fears appear in first graders. The child is accustomed to having a constantly loving grandmother or mother next to him. He is uncomfortable in the new school, where he is alone, on his own.
It is especially hard for impressionable children, whose mothers went to work early, and they did not receive parental affection and love. You need to understand that for any child, the worst thing is to lose parents. From here, his first “I do not want” may appear.
In order to cope with the child’s fears, it is important to support him, listen to and explain that these feelings are the norm. Convince him that you will always be there, help to deal with all the problems.
8. Parents themselves did not like their school, and this fear of it was transmitted to the children
A child who never went to school does not know what it is. It is the parents who tell him, explain what awaits him there.
If mom and dad talk about her as a terrible place, remember strict teachers, their first control and deuces, the child also will not want to go every day to where he does not expect anything good.
To prevent this, you need to remember what was interesting at school. Ask the child about everything, try to put his knowledge into practice. So, an article made on technology can be presented to grandmother or you can tell her a poem in English.
7. Mom does not want to let go of her son or daughter
There are parents attached to their children. For them, the child is the only light in the window. Such a mother does not have her hobbies and hobbies, so her life becomes empty when the child grows up.
And the child, on a subconscious level, begins to fulfill his mother’s wishes, i.e. often sick, does not want to go to school, seeks to stay at home with her.
In this case, mom needs to work on herself. You can’t live only for the sake of the child. You need to find a useful thing for yourself, for example, to become a member of the parent committee at school.
6. The child believes that the teacher does not love him
A small child, especially if he is used to being in the spotlight, may be upset that the teacher does not love him, does not pay enough attention to him.
It is important to understand that the task of the teacher is to teach. But if the teacher constantly breaks the evil on the child, screams, it is worth thinking about its transfer to another class.
5. Parents are afraid that something will happen to their child
Mom and grandmother constantly take care of their beloved son or daughter, and they cannot bear the thought that something could happen to the child at school.
It may slip and fall, resulting in serious injury. Other students can offend him, he can catch some serious illness.
All these anxieties at the subconscious level are also transmitted to a child who is afraid of school.
4. The child is afraid to get a bad mark
For him, 2 or 3 is not just an estimate. The kid considers himself bad, stupid and very worried about this. It is important to convey to him that 2 only means that the child is poorly prepared for the lesson.
If he tries, he will easily correct his assessment. But, even if he doesn’t succeed, his parents will still love him.
3. Parents pay for good grades
The child must understand that he does not go to school because it is necessary. It is important for him to get an education in order to learn how to read, count, and understand how the world around him works. Here basic knowledge is laid.
What do most parents do? They motivate the child in their own way. You will study well - we will buy you a doll or a kinder surprise. A child goes to school and gets good grades, but he himself is not interested in knowledge. His goal is a toy.
Accordingly, maybe he will prepare for lessons, but the knowledge in his head will not be postponed. Without the right motivation, you cannot achieve any success, including in your studies.
2. It’s difficult for children to learn new material
Children are all different, each child has his own unique abilities. Someone from childhood knows how to count well, solves all complex examples and tasks on the fly. And someone has a literary talent, he writes beautiful compositions, magnificent poems.
Because of this, all children absorb material differently. Someone grasps everything on the fly, someone needs to explain the task several times.
Or the child was sick, did not understand the new topic, and now it is difficult for him to understand what's what. Hence the fear, fear, unwillingness to go to school. What should parents do?
It is necessary not to scold the child for poor progress, but to explain to him what he does not yet understand, to help “catch up” with his class on a particular topic. And, of course, it is unacceptable to insult the child, call him stupid and incapable.
1. The child has adolescence
It is no secret that the most difficult period in a child’s life is adolescence. His body is changing, interests are changing. Until recently, it was an obedient and quiet elementary school student who studied diligently.
But hormones, new interests, friends - all this makes you forget about studying. The school, with its prohibitions and strict rules, is often burdensome; thoughts are occupied with something completely different.
It is important to understand what is happening to the child and change tactics. If earlier you took care of and controlled the child, now this tactic has stopped working.
You are already an almost adult person, and by restricting his freedom, you will only achieve that he will do everything against you.