Aggressive behavior can occur in a child of any age. Aggressive children insult others, threaten them, argue and provoke fights.
Sometimes this character trait is associated with a feature of the child’s nervous system. If he has a weak unbalanced type of central nervous system, then he does not tolerate any discomfort, both physical and psychological. Through aggression, the child expresses his fear, fatigue, and poor health.
But most often, the parents contribute to the formation of aggression in the child. If they often conflict, show disrespect and cruelty, children begin to copy this behavior. Some mistakes in education can lead to the fact that the child grows up uncontrollable and aggressive.
10. The habit of speaking in elevated tones
If it has become the norm for parents to communicate not only with the child, but also with other people, one should not be surprised that the baby has adopted this style of communication. He is often rude and rude, but does not pay attention to the cry of his mother or father.
Experts are sure that a person begins to speak in elevated tones in order to attract attention, he wants to be heard. But, as it turned out, psychological laws work against him. As soon as someone raises his voice, the interlocutor activates the rejection mechanism. He hears what they are talking about, but it all goes "past the ears." A scream is a sign of weakness.
If a person is unsure of himself, he will try to establish his status with a scream. Often parents shout at the child, because he is the most helpless, cannot dismiss, as the boss, or turn away, as the acquaintance. Then the child concludes that the one who is stronger is right. And it becomes tyrannical, aggressive with those who are weaker than him.
9. You swear at a child
Often you have to sort things out with your husband or other relatives, because not everyone can live without conflict. But, even if they are in your family, never swear in front of children.
The kid will grow up, create his own family. He will build relationships just like his parents, in which case he will constantly show aggression to his life partner. He may form a negative attitude towards one or another gender, for example, to all women if he sympathizes with dad, or men if he regrets his mother.
The kid grows and absorbs negative communication experience, observes hostility. For him, it becomes the norm, and he begins to behave the same. Any conflict for him is a traumatic situation, the consequence of which can be fear, anxiety, and sometimes neurosis, mental illness.
8. You are constantly punishing him
Any punishment, not only physical, is the most disastrous method of education. Often, when punishing, parents try to convey to him the information “Don’t do this!”, But forget to explain exactly how to act. The child experiences a storm of feelings: restlessness, humiliation, revenge. Not one of them contributes to the formation of good behavior.
If he is often punished, he becomes hostile to his parents. Timid children turn into closed, and easily excitable - into aggressive ones. Because of punishment, children have fear, it can become pathological, as well as the habit of lying, hostility and revenge.
7. React to the child’s requests only after he gets angry
The kid asks for something from you, but instead of paying attention to the needs of the child, you ignore him. It can be any request: a glass of water, a desire to listen to a bedtime story, play board games with it, etc.
When he simply speaks to you, you don’t listen to the child, but if he gets angry, start screaming and breaking things, you quickly give him what he wants. So the kid remembers: I can achieve something only using aggression. And do not be surprised that he grew uncontrollable and noisy.
6. You inspire the child that only he himself is to blame
You shouted at the baby, punished him, and then convinced that it was not you who was to blame, but he himself. So he will learn that the victim itself is to blame for any aggression. And in the future, he will be able to easily attack others, without feeling any remorse. If a parent instills a feeling of guilt in the baby, then a person with many complexes will grow up, a lack of initiative, an infantile one.
5. You never explain to a child why you are angry with him
The arguments “because I said so” or “so necessary” are unconvincing. If the baby upset you with something, did something wrong, he definitely needs to explain how to do the right thing and why you are angry. If you just scream, the child develops anxiety, and, as a result, aggressive behavior.
4. Your child is constantly watching action movies
Scenes of violence affect the psyche of children. An adult can critically evaluate everything that he sees on the screen. And the child is sure that this is exactly what you need to behave, perceives what you saw as a guide to action.
He is forming a criminal style of thinking: you need to destroy the offender, and not necessarily by legal methods. The strong and rich can do what they want. Children begin to think that all problems need to be solved with the help of violence, and the one who shoots and kills many people can be a good hero.
When a person looks at the TV screen, his brain responds to scenes of violence as well as to real ones: anxiety and fear, self-doubt, the need to flee or show aggression appear. If he sees such scenes constantly, then his sensitivity to them is lost. The child gets used to violence and in cold blood does not do very good things.
3. You never praise a child
If he achieved something, you do not want to celebrate his successes and achievements. But at the same time constantly concentrate on his shortcomings, so that he constantly strives for excellence.
But such parents bring up an inferiority complex in the baby. He appears aggression directed at himself. A person who is dissatisfied with himself cannot enjoy life; a negative accumulates in him, which then can result in other people.
2. Do not stand up for the baby in a difficult situation
Other children offend him, take away toys, but you don’t want to interfere, because sure that the child must learn to give back. And if he could not protect himself, then this is for him a kind of school of life. The correct behavior of children should be taught by parents. And by encouraging aggression, you will not make a child strong and confident, but cripple his psyche.
1. Your child does not get enough sleep
The nervous system of the child needs rest and recovery. If you allow him to go to bed late, and then wake up in the morning, his body cannot but respond to this. The synthesis of melatonin slows down, the level of the stress hormone cortisol rises. Because of this, children become impulsive, irritable, their mood often changes. It is important to observe a sleep pattern, the child should not accumulate fatigue.